Pre-mature Open Communication

In online dating I have found that there are a lot of men that suffer from something I like to call "pre-mature open communication". One of the great things about online dating is that the individual sites allow you to chat with potential mates without sharing your personal information. However, I have found that many men are impatient and don't want to follow the steps of guided communication. They prefer that you give them your phone number or personal email address upfront. Instead of sending me questions like, "What do you like to do in your free time?" or "What qualities are you looking for?", I get questions like, "Wanna be my next date? Call me at 512-555-5555." I usually respond with something like, "What happened to your last one?" That usually confuses them. Believe it or not, I actually want to answers their questions and I'd prefer they answer mine, before I give them my home phone number. That way, if I decide we don't have anything in common and want to close the match or discontinue communication, I don't have to worry about hearing from them again. I understand that it can be annoying to have to check multiple accounts throughout the day and you may prefer that I just email your gmail account, but I don't need to be added to your group list so I can begin receiving even more annoying forwards than I'm already getting. I'll give you my personal info when I'm ready and at least reasonably convinced that you're not a crazy stalker. In conclusion, pre-mature open communication can be avoided if you take things slow, don't get too excited, and wait until the time is right for both individuals involved.

Sincerely,

Not into AWESOME guys

CH